She reflects white-
bathed in glimpses of
her past, gleaming
gold flecks into
overcome by a
© Pamela Rossow
Well, it’s Monday and sad to say no humorous blurbs to post (at least not yet). Too much time apart from my niece and nephew and my big kids. . . grown ups just don’t bring it like the children do!!!! So, this is more of a reflection blog. My best friend and I were talking till late last night about many things (sorry mom and dad for hogging the phone). We ended up able to rant, laugh, cry, and get serious all in one conversation (isn’t that what best friends are about? you can completely be yourself and you’re not nuts)? Towards the end of the conversation, something struck me that was pretty profound. We started our adult, married lives back when (before we met) in completely different places, yet, through the years, traveled similar roads to where we each are now. Today, we are in comparable spaces in many aspects. Each of us wanting to be loved, to keep our families intact despite extenuating circumstances, to be secretly rescued without having to compromise values like honesty, communication, and self-awareness (although, we know our knights most likely won’t be individuals in gleaming armor who guide their horses over hurdles, deftly climb turrets, and profess poems of endearment).
Despite the similarities, we are often in opposite mind sets (and places, she’s married, I’m divorced). During these times of differences, we realize that we are mirrors to one other. Depending on who is gazing into the mirror and who is being gazed upon by the reflection, we end up like yin and yang (for lack of a better metaphor). Our life experiences, dreams, hopes, darkness, failures, defeats, injustices, joys, sweetness bring us to these places where we can look at each other and see (cataract free) from the viewpoint of the other. This constant viewing of life through the lens of friendship (and the other’s situation) helps us to more clearly define who we want to become as individuals. To be strong women. To have hope. To be self-aware. To not be so jaded that our hearts become hardened to truth and love. To know that our journeys are really just beginning (even though we often feel like we’re smack in the midst of them). To know that we are granted this gift of one another and, through each other, we can support ourselves, our intellects, our emotions. To recognize that we are part of a larger, global community. To know that we can make differences in our own lives, each other’s lives, and touch other people as well. This friendship, micro extending macro, can impact other people for the better. We’re learning what must be learned and, at some point, we will become teachers of positive change. Wow, I can end this here on a sociological note (since we both share the same degrees too), it’s late, and I’m not sure I’m presenting this observation too clearly. Good night friends (or good day)!
P.S. youtube’s copyright issues are more than annoying. . .nearly every good video is being pulled b/c of infringement! Grrr!